I would argue that so much of our anger is actually the displacement of loss or grief. Perhaps you are feeling grief or immense sadness over situations that did not go the way you planned or relationships your heart longs for/ you feel like you’re missing.
Take a minute to reflect on a person or experience that regularly elicits anger.
Now, are you truly angry at the situation OR are you more sad about the outcome?
For years, I felt angry over a particular relationship in my life, which led to bitterness and resentment. However, within the past year I’ve realized that for as much as I was angry…I was more sad.
I was grieving the relationship that I never had the opportunity to have. The relationship that I felt I lost.
My sadness was showing up as anger.
My anger was truly displaced grief.
I have to say that this was one of the most powerful and pivotal realizations for me. Once I realized why I was reacting the way I had been for so many years, I was able to work on healing and letting go the past. I truly believe that once you have an understanding of the underlying cause of your behaviour and thoughts, you are better able to move past it.
If you are feeling particularly triggered by a situation, I encourage you to dig deep on your emotions because how you are presenting (emotions you are feeling) may be the result of a different displaced emotion.
As always, I’m rooting for you 💖